What does it mean to be supportive?
Life threw me a pretty big curve ball this past week…the way life is apt to do. And for a few moments I got caught in my tornado again. That feeling of being tossed about and everything is spinning and you’re trying desperately to hold on, but you can’t find the ground beneath your feet. I felt that panic attack coming on and I did everything in my power to fend it off. I just needed some space from everyone and some quiet time to process it all.
I fought my mind that wanted to just get caught up in the storm and reminded it of what Andrew Kun, a wise teacher of mine once said… “Find the eye of the storm and take refuge there.” (Eternal gratitude for that wisdom Andrew) I don’t think he realizes how much his words have helped me over the years. For I force myself to stand still amidst the chaos that arises and I take stock of what’s flying around and then I start anchoring things down. I create a plan. And as I do… The winds start to die down and the storm abates.
That’s support… Simple words spoken with the intention of giving a different perspective. Not direction. Not obligation. Not instruction. Not judgement. Not trash-talking. But rather an alternate option that I might consider should I choose to. Words that turn into a resource if applied.
I have had friends call and ask what they can do. And there’s really nothing that they can do. But that call is support. That call is often enough… Knowing I’m loved and cared for is support. This is my storm. I have to weather it. But knowing that there is shelter available is comfort enough. They didn’t tell me what they think I should do. They didn’t tell me what they think I did wrong or why the situation was messed up… They just offered to stand there, ready, should I need them for anything.
We often want to be supportive. We don’t like seeing our loved ones hurt. But we offer support from our own perspective for that is what we know. What would we want in this situation? What do we think is supportive? It would be more impactful if we asked them what they needed. Everyone processes life differently. Someone might need a hug. Someone else might need to be left alone. Someone else might want to talk about it. Sometimes we might want to do all three… But at our own pace. When we feel ready.
So if you have a loved one who’s going through a tough time… Be supportive by asking them what they need. And be respectful of that response. If they don’t want your hug when you first offer it, don’t take it personally. You’re supporting them. It’s about what they need, not what you think they need. They may still want that hug… Just at a later time. Just be unconditionally ready for when they do.
We’ve all heard the word – “Stress”. What does it mean to you?
Stress is known to cause some serious health issues. And it impacts almost everyone. So how do we cope with it? And what can we do to reduce it when we do feel the pressure?
Here are some tips to get you through the tough days.
- Set aside relaxation time.
- Do something you enjoy every day.
- Get enough sleep.
- Eat a healthy diet.
- Reduce caffeine and sugar.
Join me this month to learn how to better understand stress and use it to better your life.
April 30th from 2:30pm-4:00pm at Complete Balance Health Centre located at 2896 Bloor Street West.
May 1st from 10:30am-12:00pm at Physiomed Van Mills located at 1900 Fowler drive.
The price will be $25.00. The link for the tickets is listed below. Spots are limited so advance booking is recommended.
See you there!
Join me as I explore the pitfalls that most people encounter in their relationships. This workshop is intended to shed some light on what the common pitfalls are and how to overcome them. It will be educational and interactive so that you can explore some of your own patterns in your relationships.
Here are some basic points to highlight some of what will be covered and some tips to help build a healthy relationship.
1. Pay attention to your tone when talking to your partner. Remember even in a moment of anger or during an argument that you love the person that you are with and that love is stronger than anything else.
2. Listen to your partner’s complaints and take them seriously, no matter what they are about. The fact that they are bringing it up to your attention means that they are unhappy about it and it will only be resolved if it is addressed.
3. Be aware of your own faults and triggers, and how they may impact your relationship. Everyone has a back story of their own that creates self-doubt and insecurities. That often gets in the way of a healthy relationship because we respond defensively when we are triggered because we are unaware of our triggers.
4. When you love someone show them, don’t just tell them. That old saying, action speaks louder than words has a lot of merit. It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture, it’s the small things that count. 5. Remember that love and sex are two sides of the same coin. Make sure that you are actively communicating about your sexual desires and your relationship needs. Maintain a sex life that is satisfying, pleasurable and respectful to both partners.
Spaces are limited so please purchase your tickets in advance to guarantee your spot.
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 27,2016 AT COMPLETE BALANCE HEALTH CENTRE, 2896 BLOOR ST WEST, TORONTO, ONTARIO. FROM 2:30 PM – 3:30 PM
You can purchase tickets for this date via the link below.
Sunday, February 28, 2016 AT PHYSIOMED VAN MILLS, 1900 FOWLER DRIVE, MISSISSAUGA, ONTARIO from 11:00 AM – 12:00 PM
You can purchase tickets for this date via the link below.
What is Meditation?
– Meditation is the ability to achieve a state of “thoughtless awareness” in which the excessive stress producing activity of the mind is neutralized without reducing alertness and effectiveness.
What are the benefits of Meditation?
– Meditation can be an effective form of stress reduction and have the potential to improve quality of life and decrease health care costs.
– Heighten self-awareness and enhance intuitive/psychic abilities, promotes self-healing.
Come join me as I guide you through a type of meditation called a Chakra Meditation so you can experience first hand the power of this ancient practice. A chakra meditation will allow you to centre your attention and focus on clearing your energy centres (chakra system) to allow your body to become more self aware, rebalance and ultimately heal itself.
DATE: April 24th 2016
LOCATION: Physiomed Van Mills – 1900 Fowler Dr, Mississauga
SESSION 1: Chakra Meditation with Sacred Space
TIME: 10:00 am – 10:50 am
SESSION 2: Basic Chakra Meditation
TIME: 11:00 am – 11:50 am
Space is limited so register and pay in advance if you want to guarantee your spot. Looking forward to seeing you there. Please feel free to bring your own yoga mat if you wish.